There’s an alarming trend running through the wedding industry.

You’ve probably seen it, and—even worse—you’ve probably been swayed by a pretty inspiration shoot into thinking that it’s not that bad of an idea.

I’m talking about movie-themed weddings. And I’m here to tell you why you should back away from those wand favors and reconsider.

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1. Today’s hottest trends are tomorrow’s fodder for VH1’s I Heart the ‘10s.
It’s one thing to say you want to incorporate timeless, Gothic-style decor into your reception space. It’s a whole other to want “Edward” and “Bella” signs hanging on your chairs at dinner. I’m firmly convinced that movie-themed weddings will be for our generation what feathered bangs and bell-bottom trouser pants were for our parents—quickly outdated and the subject of much mockery by posterity.

Besides, your wedding photos are going to be prominently displayed in your home (and your parents’ and grandparents’ homes) probably forever. Unless you plan to live in a haunted castle or a thatched-roof cottage, movie-themed wedding photos might not exactly match the curtains. (At the very least, be sure to order a few prints in black and white.)

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2. Your wedding should be a reflection of you.
“But Justine,” you say, “I love Harry Potter! Harry Potter is me!” No, dear reader. Harry Potter is a fictional (sorry, fans) character that you really enjoy reading about and possibly watching on screen. Harry Potter is a fantasy who lives in a fantasy world you like to escape to now and then. You might wish it was all real, but you also (hopefully) acknowledge that it isn’t.

You know what is real and should be taken seriously? Your marriage. And there’s something about basing the most important relationship of your life on a fairy tale that spells trouble for the future. Besides, if your relationship really is based on the eternal battle between good and evil, the struggle of the people versus an oppressive government regime, or your fiance’s struggle to not drink your blood, you have issues beyond the scope of my advice.

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3. I’m not sure that means what you think it means.
Yup, I’m dedicating an entire point to one movie: The Hunger Games weddings. Can we just…not? You have read the books right? Then you should know these books are not about romance. They never are, and they never will be. Just trust me that you don’t want to base your wedding day on a story about children murdering children. Something about that is just a turn-off. And I say that as someone who really likes this trilogy.

What you really mean when you say you want a Hunger Games wedding is, “I want a woodsy wedding theme and to wear a side braid.” Just do that. Including a mockingjay monogram on your stationery is just unnecessary. (Unless you’re planning to have your bridal party battle to the death to see who gets the bouquet. In which case, maybe you live in more of a fantasy land than I thought.)

Now, obviously I’m not saying you shouldn’t incorporate the things you and your fiance are passionate about in your wedding. You should. And if one of those things happens to be the latest YA lit craze, by all means, incorporate details into your wedding. (Even some of the examples I showed above can be pretty.)

So, go ahead. Name your tables after the Hogwart’s houses. Decorate your tables with a few black candelabras. But for the love of all that is holy, leave your bow and arrow at home.

6 Responses to 3 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Have a Movie-Themed Wedding

  • Matt says:

    Counterpoint: If one were participating in a loveless arranged marriage born of political considerations, or perhaps a union of incest, a Game of Thrones-themed wedding would be more than appropriate.

  • Maybe you should re-read The Hunger Games… it’s ENTIRE subplot is about a love story. Not saying that all ppl should do a movie themed wedding, I think a person’s wedding should be whatever they want it to be, and who are we to judge how they want to spend their day. You’re not the one who the wedding is about anyways. Just saying if you want to be respected, maybe pick a better argument.
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    • Justine Lorelle says:

      Hi Emilee!

      I completely agree with you that a wedding should be a personal reflection of the couple. Really, I do! That’s why I included that second-to-last paragraph. If The Hunger Games has been a crucial part of your relationship, then you’re absolutely right that there is no reason why it shouldn’t be a part of your big day. My husband plays hockey, so at our wedding, we spray painted hockey pucks gold to use as the table numbers. It was really subtle, but we liked that it included a personal touch to the centerpieces.

      Here’s what I take issue with: When people get so absorbed in incorporating a trendy “theme” into their wedding day that they completely miss the point. This post was prompted by my seeing dozens of stylized wedding or inspiration shoots around the web focused on movies or books that really, truly are not about love. People really just wanted to use a certain look, but the wedding industry wanted to cash in on the hype of popular entertainment. I don’t think the entire subplot is about a love story. If anything, the main character and narrator spends the majority of time forcing herself NOT to think about even the possibility of a relationship because there is so much other stuff (AKA, plot and subplot) going on. Sure, the love story is in there. It is definitely part of the books and what the story ends on, but I don’t think the stories have to do with romantic love nearly as much as you say.

      But really, isn’t that the point of reading? We both have the right of giving our own analysis of the books. You see a love story; I see a battle between the people and an oppressive government regime bent on breaking their wills. If this was one of my college English classes, I’m sure we could spend weeks discussing it.

      But back to your comment. I sincerely had no intention of judging anyone, and I sincerely apologize if you felt judged. Thanks for reading and commenting!

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