I won’t lie to you — one of the best parts of having a daughter is getting dressed up.
I wasn’t super girlie growing up, but I’ve definitely embraced all things dresses, makeup, and accessories in my adult years. Fortunately for me, my little lady seems to already have gained an appreciation for most things pretty and sparkly.
And there’s nothing like a tea party to bring out all the girlie goodness. (That sounds dirty? It’s not…moving on.)
Recently, we were invited to attend my friend Cynthia’s annual tea party. (You might remember her last one here.) This year, I was super excited to be able to bring Vivi to her first high tea — and even more excited to dress her up for it.
Per usual, Cynthia’s hosting was superb. We ate a combination of finger sandwiches, blueberry scones, and four different types of cookies with our tea and champagne. I love how Cynthia always uses a mix of pottery and flatware to give the whole event an Alice in Wonderland effect.
Now for the style! My favorite part of the tea party is that we all wear some kind of hat. Last time, I wore a fascinator. But this time, I borrowed a pretty striped sun hat to go with my white sheath. (My dress is from LOFT two years ago, but similar styles here, here, and here.)
Blah blah blah. Honestly, the only thing I want to talk about is Vivi’s outfit!
I mean, come ON. As soon as I knew Vivi needed a hat, I knew exactly what I wanted to do. I have been eyeing these glittery gold crowns from Peekabloom Baby for months now, and I was so thrilled to have the occasion to get one.
The crowns are lined with felt (either pink or mint) and held on with a matching elastic strap. I was a little nervous that Viv would rip hers off as soon as it went on, but she actually didn’t touch it the entire afternoon. The strap is a little long on her now, so I was able to tie it to a comfortable size.
The crown itself is just as adorable in person as it looks in photos. It’s super well made and can even stand up to a bit of baby-style handling. I’m planning to reuse it for the next photo shoot we do with my sister. Plus, Alysse, the fabulous crown maker, is offering my readers a 20 percent off discount code! Just use SUNNY20 at checkout. (She also has a whole collection of adorable bows that can stick on even the baldest baby’s head — they’re almost magic.)
Thank you again for having us, Cyndy! Everything was perfect!
I haven’t done a product round-up in ages, and I always love peeking into people’s makeup bags, so I thought it might be fun to share a few of my favorite cosmetics and tools for flawless skin. Or, you know, as flawless as one can get without the team of Beyonce behind them. (Sorry, dude readers, this post is probably not going to be your favorite.)
Like most things in my life, I try to make health-conscious choices about what I put on my skin, but I’m also balanced. (Or maybe just a bit lazy. But “balanced” makes me sound reasonable, doesn’t it?)
What I’m saying is, that my makeup bag, like so much of my life, is the perfect picture of a high-low collection. In general, I tend to invest in the products that go directly on my skin (as in concealers, foundations, tinted moisturizers, etc.), but for everything else, I’m perfectly comfortable prowling my local drugstore’s cosmetics department.
In today’s round-up, I’m focusing on the items I use to create an “everyday” face. Also known as the “non-makeup makeup.”
If there are still any dude readers hanging on, what I’m saying is that these are the products girls will use and you will think they’re not wearing makeup. We ladies are wizards, I tell you.
Of course, they can also be supplemented with a heavier regime of mascara, eyeliner, eyeshadow, lipstick…the list goes on. But a good face needs a good foundation, you know? Let’s begin.
1. Velvet 59 Contour is a Girl’s Best Friend – $45
Pretty much everyone with skin this side of the wester hemisphere is familiar with the concept of contouring these days. What started out as a Kardashian’s right of passage has quickly been embraced — and finessed — by the masses. This pretty contour palette was actually developed by someone I know, and what I love most about it is how easy it makes it to bring a subtle contour into the real world. The cream-to-powder finish feels silky on skin and blends easily, meaning the definition can be subtle or dramatic, depending on your mood or occasion. Plus, all of Velvet 59’s products are cruelty-free, which means you can feel good about your newly defined cheek bones.
2. Maybelline Master Fix Setting + Perfecting Loose Powder – $10
Remember what I was saying about high and low? This translucent powder is available at your local Walgreens, but I think the finish is just as quality as anything you could shell out big bucks for. I don’t use setting powder all over my face every day, but I haven’t found anything that sets under eye concealer quite so well. (Because creasing is real, folks.)
3. bareMinerals bareSkin Pure Brightening Serum Foundation – $30
There’s no way to say this without sounding slightly brag-y, but I don’t need (or want) to use a heavy foundation. For most of my life, I’ve used a tinted moisturizer and called it good. (Because while my skin is mostly even, it could always use a little more evening, ya know?) In the past, I had actually steered clear of bareMinerals products because I felt like they had a cake-y, heavy finish that left me looking overly done. And then I discovered they had a liquid line. And, you guys? This serum foundation has the silkiest feel of any foundation-like product I have ever used. It’s super light, and you only need a few drops to cover your whole face. The end result is dewy without looking slick, and, the more I use it, the more I feel like it actually makes my skin look better. Win-win!
4. Smashbox Photo Finish Foundation Primer – $36
I’ll be honest: I’ve never actually purchased this product. I received this tiny sample version for free. But actually, that’s one of the pros: This tiny bottle has lasted for weeks because you only need a little drop for your whole face. And the result? A smooth, flawless palette for your makeup — and matte skin for hours and hours, which is really saying something when you’ve got a slick T-zone like I do.
5. Real Techniques by Sam & Nic Chapman Stippling Brush – $10
Before buying this brush, I had been using a more paintbrush-like foundation brush to apply foundation. Then a girlfriend told me about stippling brushes and promised it would change the way I used makeup. She didn’t overstate this. Whereas the paintbrush tended to smear the foundation more (at least in my experience), the stippling brush made it easier to swirl on the product, resulting in more even coverage. I know there are better quality brushes out there, but, honestly, this brush works just fine for me. And $10? Can’t beat that.
6. beautyblender Original – $20
Speaking of pricier makeup applicators…the beautyblender gets a lot of hype. But, I have to level with you: I really think it lives up to it. Not only is the material perfect for applying almost anything to your skin, from contour to concealer to powder, the shape makes it possible to perfectly apply to every surface of your face. (Looking at you, tricky corner-of-eyes area.) If you’re not sure how to use one, I highly recommend this tutorial from The Beauty Department. The only edit I would make to that article is how to clean your beautyblender. They recommend glycerin soap, which might be fine, but I’ve had great success with castile soap. Apply a few drops directly to the blender, and then use your fingers to work the soap through the sponge. Rinse thoroughly for a pink-like-new result.
7. Maybelline Eye Studio Brow Precise Shaping Pencil – $7
Like contouring, eyebrow products are really having a moment. For the last year, I used a pricier version of a brow pencil that I got for a dollar at a work beauty sale, but when it ran out, I decided to see if I could get a similar result with a drugstore product. I liked that this Maybelline pencil has a similar shape the the version I used before with a brush on one end, and I actually think it shapes my brows better than the pricier option. I’m fortunate that my eyebrows don’t need a ton of help (the shape is decent and they are thick enough not to warrant any strange stares)(brag-y)(sort of), but I’m always impressed how a little bit of eyebrow maintenance can make my whole face look more defined and pulled together without a lot of other products. And for $7? What’s not to like?
Have your own favorite drugstore products? Is there a high-end item you think is totally worth the price? I’d love to hear about it. Leave a comment below!
You guys know how I feel about baby stuff. But you know what is actually one of the most difficult parts of creating a baby registry for your first kid? You honestly have no idea what you will need.
Sure, sure, there are 8,000(,000,000) blog posts out there telling you what you should REALLY register for (cough), but the thing is, until you’ve lived with your baby, you can’t really know which products are going to save your life and which are just going to take up room in your already-too-tiny apartment.
That fact is one of the reasons why I love momma makers. Moms who start their own businesses creating products for other moms just seem to really get it. They’re not trying to make your life harder (you get enough of that from leaky diapers, ya know?); they actually want to solve a real problem you will really have.
Plus, who doesn’t love an entrepreneurial hustler, amiright?
You guys know my friend Haley, maker of the are-we-sure-they’re-not-magic Beluga Baby wraps? Well, through Haley I was connected to Lorene of Glitter & Spice. And what “why didn’t I think of that?” amazingness has Lorene cooked up for moms? Teething. Jewelry.
Think about it: Little ones will chew on just about anything they can get their chubby little hands on when they’re teething. Necklaces, being that their location puts them in prime grabbing location, are one of the most popular options. So why wouldn’t you wear a necklace that doubled as a safe teether?
But before you start imaging something cheesy strung around your neck, you should know that, um, Lorene’s pieces have been in Vogue, Glamour, and Harper’s Bazaar.
Yeah, they’re that cute.
She also has traditional teethers in cute shapes, like the super popular Cookie Teether. Trust me, it never stops being hilarious watching people freak out when they think you’re handing your three-month-old an Oreo.
I won a necklace from Glitter & Spice in an Instagram contest, but I was so charmed (PUNZ) by the products that I couldn’t help but order a second necklace and a bracelet. I can’t even tell you how many times Viv is fussing and I just hand her the bracelet to gum for a while. Instant toys are the best kind of toys.
And if you’re worried your kid won’t realize your new necklace is actually for them, don’t be. I literally had JUST snapped mine on, and Vivi immediately started chowing down. There’s something about those 100% silicone beads that they can’t ignore.
Finally, the products are really safe. Lorene uses silicone that is BPA-free and has no phthalates, lead, or PVCs, and the wood beads are organic and untreated. Because you have other things to worry about (see: aforementioned leaky diaper).
Ready for the best part? I have a discount code for you! Enter JUSTINE20 during checkout for 20% off your Glitter & Spice purchase. Who doesn’t love a little savings? Trust me when I tell you they’re worth every penny. (And seriously, did I mention how cute?) Happy shopping!
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Hands down, one of the best parts of having a baby girl is the clothes. I probably would have enjoyed dressing a boy, too, but as a lover of girl clothes myself, it’s so much fun to style her in dresses, headbands, and bows.
That being said, I never want to be the type of person who forces my kid to wear uncomfortable clothes. Most days, she and I are lounging at home or running errands, so our “style” is pretty laid-back. I also prefer baby clothes that look like an outfit I might wear, as opposed to super matchy-matchy sets.
That’s why I was so excited when I learned about the Sweet Peanut Clothing Company. This adorable company creates mix-and-match baby separates out of soft, organic cotton. Each piece is a streamlined design for easy, comfortable wear, and I love how most of the patterns are gender neutral. Sweet Peanut releases two new themed lines per year, and they’re all playful and bright.
Also, this semi-crunchy mom can’t help but love that the fabric is never chemically treated and non-hazardous dyes are used to create the vivid colors.
Plus, can we talk about how cute the clothes are?
Of course, a cute model doesn’t hurt either! What are your favorite children’s brands?
*Clothing was provided for a review.
My mom has been in town for the last few days (and my dad over the weekend), so I’ve been able to accomplish a lot around the apartment that I’ve had on my to-do list for a while. One of those big tasks was redecorating our bedroom. I’m going to do a full reveal, but I also want to share a few of the smaller projects that make up the whole room. Today, we’re talking floral arrangements.
One of the most fun jobs I’ve ever had was when I was the Flowers Editor for a wedding magazine. I know a fair amount about flowers already from my mom, but my job was basically to look at beautiful bouquets all day, forecast the trends, schmooze with the top florists from around the city, and receive bouquets occasionally from vendors who wanted to impress us. I’ve never had so many fresh flowers around in my life.
And while I love the idea of surrounding our home with fresh flowers on the daily, it’s simply not practical. But I do love the look, which is why I’ve embraced silk or artificial blooms.
The trouble with artificial flowers is that, often times, they look…well, fake. And that utterly defeats the purpose. So I’ve come up with a few rules to selecting the best-looking faux flowers for your home.
Don’t forget to pay careful attention to your color choices.
In general, I have a really hard time finding flowers in primary shades that look realistic. It’s just a tough job to create a dye the same color as what you find in nature, and the primary hues lack the depth you see in the real thing. It works for wreaths or displays that need to be seen from a distance, but otherwise, I say skip reds, blues, yellows (except in the case of sunflowers), and even most oranges.
Do embrace pastels and jewel tones.
Pastels are almost always a safe bet when it comes to faux flowers because — surprise! — they closely resemble a lot of real flowers. But if you’re looking to make a statement, go for something in the jewel tone family. At least it’s another natural color.
Do opt for texture.
Big fluffy flowers are easier to fake than anything more architecturally shaped. The softer petals will all blend together in a big puff of flowers, give the appearance of softness and texture without triggering anyone’s attention that they’re not real.
Don’t be afraid to think beyond flowers.
Cherry blossoms, pussy willows, and other stick-like options are great for adding height or finishing off more modern decor. Plus, they just tend to look more authentic. This is a great option for first-time faux flower buyers because it’s really hard to mess up.
Don’t forget your greens.
Real life flowers always have greenery, so your faux displays should too. Greenery is also another option if you’re not ready to jump on the flower bandwagon just yet. Plus, they tend to look more real as well.
Don’t do this…ever:
Natural colors, remember? Just trust me on that one.
Now…for the arranging!
Do select a variety of flowers in the same color family.
Don’t worry about matching your flowers exactly — that’s not how it happens in nature! A variety of blush shades creates a romantic blend that looks more realistic as well.
Do trim your stems to fit your container.
Just like you would a real bunch of flowers, use wire cutters to trim the stems to fit your container for easier arranging.
Do pick a focal point.
Create cohesive bouquets by picking a showstopper centerpiece (in my case, a large peony) and arranging your supporting flowers around it. Then tuck in a bit of greenery to finish off the look.
Ta da! I’m pretty pleased with how the whole thing turned out.
Do you decorate with faux flowers? What are your best tips for making them look more realistic?
Insecurities are a funny thing. Over the years, I feel like I’ve been pretty open on this blog about mine. In general, I don’t consider myself an insecure person, but that hasn’t always been the case.
For the most part, I’m a person of very cyclical moods. About once a year, I experience what I consider to be some kind of depression or low point. (I say “consider” because I’ve never been officially diagnosed with anything.) It typically lasts anywhere from a couple of weeks to a couple of months. It’s usually marked by an increase in mood swings, sensitivity, and a marked uptick in my insecurities. (And, you may have noticed, a lack of blog posts. The blog starts to feel incredibly insignificant during these lows, and I can’t imagine anyone caring what I have to say about anything.)
It’s not fun, but I at least feel more in control of these times than I used to because I’m now able to recognize them for what they are. Anyone familiar with depression can tell you what a liar it is — it tells you you’re not good enough, you’re unlovable, you’re just not enough. So, for me, there is power in being able to feel those things but still step back in my mind and remind myself I won’t always feel that way and that they probably aren’t true.
The insecurities I deal with have evolved over the years, but they’re usually a mix of doubts about something superficial (in high school, the size of my thighs; now, my teeth and nose) and something social (in high school, that my friends and family didn’t really like me; now, that my friends and family don’t really like me).
It’s at this point that I feel obligated to remind you that, in my rational mind, I know my friends and family love me. I do. You don’t need to tell me you do; I know it. Depression just makes me not believe it for a while, or wonder when the day will come that they will stop loving me.
I think everyone handles these feelings differently, for better or worse. For me, I workout (the best therapy for me) and I think about it — a lot. I reason on my feelings, what brings them on and what I can do about it. Often the answer to the latter is simply to ride out the storm and keep reminding myself that depression is a liar. In fact, this is the first time I’ve ever really discussed these feelings publicly — I’d venture a guess that most of the people in my life don’t even know I deal with them.
I’m kind of a hermit when it comes to my own struggles. But I’m trying to be better about that because bottling it up (surprise!) doesn’t really seem to help anything.
I’m happy to tell you that, while this post was inspired by my latest bout of low-ness, I can already tell I’m coming out of it. Good talks with some close friends and a weekend with my family were huge helps to reaching the other side of this valley. But even though it’s (hopefully) almost over, the most lingering part of my lows are always the insecurities. Kind of like a bad cough.
I think about my insecurities a lot now as a mother of a daughter. Girls seem to be especially plagued by insecurity, almost to the point where it is weird if you’re confident. I don’t know if I can keep Vivian from having her own self doubts, but I never want her to feel crippled by them.
I want her to laugh loudly even if she thinks her laugh is obnoxious. I want her to wear the sleeveless dress she loves even if she doesn’t like her upper arms. I want her to get down on the dance floor even if she worries someone will think she looks ridiculous.
I want her to live her life bravely, even when she doesn’t feel brave.
And the fact is, I’m going to be her best example of how to do that. So I had better start being a good example.
Which brings me to my new project: Eradicating my superficial insecurities. I’ve decided I’m going to stop only taking photos from what I consider to be my “good side” — just because my nose and teeth are straighter from the left. I’m going to grin broadly — even though in the back of my mind I think my teeth are big and slightly bucky. And I’m going to do whatever I can to stop letting myself slip into the old habit of being who I think people want me to be — and just trust that anyone who does stop liking me was never all that great to have to begin with.
Because I want Vivi to do all those things too. Because, to me, she is perfect. And who else could she possibly be to be better?